Why There Has to Be a Method to Your Madness
When emotions run high, a framework provides clarity
17 days ago, I celebrated a project launch. Then, got laid off.
One moment, you’re on top of the world. The next, you’re processing the gut punch of being “exited” from a corporate job. It’s a roller coaster of emotions that could easily spiral into chaos.
But here’s the thing, all you need is a method to madness — a framework that turns overwhelming moments into bearable ones.
Here’s how I found my method, and how you can find yours too.
1. Process Emotions, Then Take Action
When HR shared the news, I could’ve stayed in bed, wallowing like a middle schooler with a broken heart. But a close friend’s reminder gave me a nudge: “Thank you, next.”
Emotions are valid, but they don’t have to take over. Instead, let them fuel your next move:
Take a deep breath to ground yourself.
Write down your thoughts—it helps untangle the mess in your mind.
Ask yourself: “What’s one small step I can take right now?”
Feel the emotions, but don’t stay stuck.
2. Take Care of Yourself First
On the first Saturday after my layoff, I went for a long walk. Inhaling fresh air felt like inhaling a dose of Vicks VapoRub, the ultimate remedy my late Filipina mom used for every sickness. There was something in the air that felt like I was resetting.
The smallest acts of self-care can be your biggest lifesavers:
A walk outdoors to clear your head.
A favorite ritual, like listening to music or sipping tea.
Moments of stillness to reconnect with yourself.
3. Build Your Support Network
Your network is a powerful tool. You must nurture it:
Reconnect with old colleagues or mentors.
Let people know what you’re working on and where you need help.
Be willing to return the favor when someone else needs support.
Don’t wait for a crisis to lean on your network. Start building it now.
4. Channel Your Creativity
Losing a job sparked an unexpected entrepreneurial journey. My husband and I started creating and selling products together.
The process of brainstorming ideas, making things with our hands, and connecting with prospects and customers was energizing.
Your creativity opens new doors:
Start a side hustle to explore your interests.
Pick up a hobby you’ve always wanted to pursue.
Collaborate with loved ones—it can strengthen bonds and spark joy.
Go and create your own opportunities, especially where none exists yet.
5. Invest in What Matters
On Black Friday, I skipped the gadgets and bought a tool to gather testimonials from people I’d worked with. Within hours, I received heartwarming feedback.
Growth often requires investment, but it doesn’t have to be monetary:
Invest in tools or resources that directly support your goals.
Seek feedback from trusted sources to reaffirm your value.
Reflect on the results to guide your next steps.
Prioritize investments that help you grow personally or professionally.
6. Pivot and Find Your Focus
This period of unknown path is a good chance to reflect on goals. Use setbacks as an opportunity to reassess.
What’s working in your life or business?
What’s not aligned with your values or goals?
How can you pivot to create something more meaningful?
7. Remember Your Why
My son is my “why.” His quirky songs, endless questions, and vivid stories remind me of my purpose. He inspires me to keep moving forward.
Your “why” gives you direction when life feels chaotic:
Who or what motivates you to keep going?
Write it down and revisit it when times are tough.
Let it guide your decisions and actions.
Your Turn: Find Your Method
Chaos is inevitable, but madness doesn’t have to consume you.
By finding your method, you can turn challenges into growth, clarity, and joy.
Start small:
Take a deep breath.
Reflect on what framework might work for you.
Share your story with someone who can support or inspire you.
What’s your method to the madness? How do you navigate life’s challenges?
Share your thoughts — I’d love to hear from you.